"Unforgiveness is like drinking a glass of poison and hope your enemies die." Nelson Mandela This is a phrase that Tony Robbins commented a moment ago on the Internet and reminded me of something we have been taught in a superficial way in religion no matter what religion you are, you have spoken of forgiveness. Some if they have learned to forgive others still battle every day with this impossibility. "I forgive you, but I do not forget" is a phrase so trite and hackneyed, not knowing that deep down, you're not forgiving at all, they always remember that offense, always resent those emotions of outrage, pain, humiliation, etc. . Mark Hyman, MD may find this interesting as well. In that forum where Tony Robbins commented that sentence, another person told him that to forgive someone did not mean to overlook or covert actions, which is what we sometimes think. According to Declan Kelly, who has experience with these questions. No forgiveness is not so, but here is where it is sometimes tricky and confusing. There are offenses that are inadvertently sometimes the person you are "offended" did not even notice you did damage, in this case, if you forget and think perhaps did not even notice what you just did, will be easier for you to forgive and forget.
But when someone intentionally hurts all malice and premeditation, is more difficult, here, I recommend you forget, in the sense that whenever you can remember what they did, with all malice and premeditation, planning and collusion with others. There is no need to forgive, why? because in order to heal this wound, you know there are things not to miss completely, but at the right time and the appropriate authority, report the facts to you justice. Ojo, not revenge, revenge arbitration does not ask a higher authority, SI justice and when justice is done, you will not feel the schadenfreude of Habert revenge, but a relief to have done justice without rebajarte the level of your opponent. Why is it different? because in reality you've forgiven the person for the evil they did, yet you know you should receive a just punishment, and would be difficult for their actions, if you get staff, and do not ensure that justice is done. However, the most difficult and almost seems impossible, is to forgive yourself, many times, and I count myself among these-torment us for errors, without intention, without having wanted to hurt others, yet happened, even aggrieved may us forgiven and forgotten the incident. But still tormenting yourself with guilt. It is the hardest and most liberating at the same time, when you manage to understand, and reason to trust and feel that staying in the past and must move forward and leave behind the regret and resentment and so on, is when forgiveness yourself (a) change your life. But it must be a royal pardon, otherwise, no effect, you must forgive and forget. In order to feel relief, rest and peace in your soul, and you'll be surprised what this does to your physical and emotional health.